DJH: did Michael Jordan get it wrong?
Recapping this week's DJH
Mindsets for Success
Be More Selfish
Sometimes you need to invite yourself to the party. Stop waiting for results to drop in your lap. Instead, go forge them. Be more selfish and go make things happen for yourself.
Quit Feeling Sorry for Yourself
If you're feeling stuck on your job hunt, you can say "there's nothing I can do. Companies just keep ghosting me." Or "it's the economy's fault." Etc.
Or you can choose a new attitude. How about:
"No matter what happens in the world or how others react, I will continue to learn, grow, and create value. No one can stop me."
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Quote of the Week
“Where you are is a result of who you were, but where you go depends entirely on who you choose to be.”
— Hal Elrod
Is it healthy to "demand" of yourself?
There's value, of course, in setting high standards for your achievement.
But does that mean relentlessly pushing, forcing, and "demanding" of yourself?
What if there were a healthier way (that kept your standards high)?
I believe there is.
Let's talk about demands vs. requests.
A demand is:
"Do this now. You have no choice. I won't accept anything else."
A request is:
"Would you be willing to do this?"
At first glance, a part of you might judge a request as "soft."
But pause. Notice that a demand comes from fear, and a request comes from trust.
When you try to "make" yourself do things, you're honing the inner schoolteacher who is looking over your shoulder, who fears you'll never learn to love reading books, unless they're assigned to you.
That's the essence of school, ladies and germs. "We can't trust you to learn and grow on your own. We need to make you learn."
Now, a demand might "work" in the short term. It might get results.
Demand energy is akin to Michael Jordan's win-at-all-costs mentality, which of course brought results.
BUT, at what price? Plenty of strife with teammates, but probably plenty of strife within himself, too....
What if instead, you could have your cake and eat it too?
What if you could maintain a high standard WHILE treating yourself with respect, empathy, and trust?
I love the idea of "empathizing with your future-self." Meaning when it comes to going to the gym, doing that hard project, emailing that pitch deck to a company, or any other meaningful pursuit, you connect to the beneifts your future self will receive.
You love that future self, and so you create the intrinsic motivation to act in the moment. You request yourself to act, and you choose to do the thing because you know it's in your self-interest!
Through requesting rather than demanding, you begin to nurture a self-trust and self-reliance that's not only the foundation for thriving accomplishment, but the foundation for a life of self-connection and self-appreciation.
Because as the years go on, do you not want to cultivate that? How wonderful might life be?
And who knows, this whole self-love thing just might bring you even better results.
At least that's the way I see it.
and the DJH Team
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