One of the hardest things about being human is being yourself.
Why?
Because we crave connection and attachment with others. Our bodies are wired to be in tribes and groups, which historically meant fitting in to cultural memes and mores.
Yet we also have needs for self-authenticity and self-esteem, to individuate and express our unique thoughts, feelings, desires, and personality.
But that can be scary.
Because what if others don’t approve? What if they don’t want to hang out with you any more?
The fear of being alone is PRIMAL.
So it makes sense and is totally understandable to want to downplay your True Self.
The task becomes, how can you have your cake and eat it too?
A key way to do this is to let go of wanting approval.
Like, in your body, allow that feeling – the one that is clinging to the need for acceptance and suppressing your True Self – to pass through you.
Let it go.
It’s trying to keep you safe. But can you let it go?
Would you simply….let it go?
Tip of the Week
Read both personal growth books and fiction books to nourish both sides of your brain.
Quotes of the Week
“Any our emotion that comes into awareness and not let go of is automatically stored in a part of our mind called the subconscious.”
— Hale Dwoskin
“To be nobody but
yourself in a world
which is doing its best day and night to make you like
everybody else means to fight the hardest battle
which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.”
― E.E. Cummings
